To My Community,
In counseling and listening to people navigate relationships, I’ve noticed a pattern that repeats itself time and time again. Every relationship follows a clear trajectory: a beginning, a middle, and an end.
Make no mistake—relationships do not sometimes end. They always end. Nothing here is permanent. Every relationship concludes in one of three ways:
Free Will: When someone chooses to walk away.
Sickness: When illness, such as dementia, strips away a person's ability to recognize the relationship.
Death: The ultimate physical separation.
Because every relationship has an end, the deepest pain during a breakup doesn't stem from the loss itself—it comes from refusing to accept reality.
When someone walks out of your life through free will, they have given you your answer. Their departure is the ultimate proof that they no longer belong in your life. Yet so many people prolong their own suffering, grief, and agony because their ego simply cannot handle that answer.
Here is the truth we all need to understand:
1. Walking Away Is the Answer: You do not need a long explanation, a debate, or permission to move on. A person’s decision to leave is all the clarity you need.
2. Respect Their Right to Leave: Loving or respecting someone means respecting their autonomy—even when they choose a path that doesn't include you. Refusing to let them go isn't love; it's a desire for control.
3. Chasing Causes the Suffering: The initial pain comes from the loss, but the prolonged agony comes from running after someone who has checked out. When you chase, you cause your own discomfort, sacrifice your dignity, and fight against reality.
A material object only leaves your space if you discard it. But people have agency. They choose where they stay and where they go.
Stop letting your ego demand a permanent outcome in a temporary world. Accept the answer, respect their choice, protect your peace, and step forward into your own clarity.
Stay blessed and keep moving forward,
SrTerence
