THE POWER OF CONTROL

The Power of Control: What a Former Manager Taught Me About True Kindness

By SrTerence™

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Kindness is a practice. It’s not a silent feeling; it’s better understood as an intention or an attitude. I’ve witnessed people who state they are kind while performing unkind actions. Kindness only truly becomes visible and impactful when it translates into how we interact with others.

When I think of kindness, I think of a former co-worker who was one of the kindest people on this planet. I’ve never met anyone more kind.

We worked on a project together for months, and not once did I see her be unkind to anyone. She was a manager and the team lead on all our projects, and it was an absolute joy to come to work with her leading the way. What was so impressive was how she handled those who were disruptive to the project—talk about "killing them with kindness."

The Office Meeting

I wanted to ask her about it, but I didn't quite know how. Then, I remember her calling me into her office one day. This was my opportunity, and I was so nervous.

"Ms. Kim?" I said.

She looked up and replied, "Yes?"

"Can I ask you a personal question?"

"Sure, Terence."

"Why are you so kind to everyone, Ms. Kim?"

She smiled and said, "It’s a power of control."

"It is?" I asked.

"Yes, Terence. I don’t like people controlling my behavior."

"I don’t like people controlling my behavior."

— Ms. Kim

"But Ms. Kim, some people still don’t like you."

"I know each of them clearly, Terence," she said.

I said, "WOW!"

That hit me like a punch, and we both started laughing so hard. Then she said, "Not one of them knows how I truly feel about them, and I’m their supervisor, Terence."

I began laughing even harder. She smiled, and then I paused.

"Wait, Ms. Kim... you are my manager."

She started laughing louder and smiled. "You are correct. Terence, do you have any other questions for me?"

"No, thanks for your time, Ms. Kim!"

The Takeaway: Kindness is Power

As I walked out of her office that day—and to this very day—I still don’t know how she actually felt about me. However, what I do know is that Ms. Kim was incredibly kind to everyone, and she changed my life with her kindness and wisdom.

Ms. Kim taught me a profound lesson in emotional intelligence: True kindness isn't weak or passive. It is the ultimate boundary. When you choose kindness, you refuse to let the negative energy, bad moods, or difficult behaviors of other people dictate who you are. You maintain absolute control over your own character.

Kindness is powerful.

What do you think?

Have you ever met a leader like Ms. Kim who mastered the art of "killing with kindness"? How do you maintain control over your behavior when dealing with difficult people? Leave a comment below—I’d love to read your stories!

MY REVIEW ON LIBERTY MUTUAL INSURANCE COMPANY

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I want to share something with my followers. Recently, a lady backed into my truck. It was parked. No one was hurt. The driver of the car left the scene of the accident. Thank God there were cameras, and we could get the tags. I reported the accident to the insurance company, which is Liberty Mutual, after the police officer instructed me to do so. Once they identify the driver and get their insurance information, they're trying to settle.

This has been very interesting. Liberty Mutual agreed that they are liable for my damages, and I'll tell you—the way they handle my case will determine whether I'll ever do business with them or recommend their company. Because the way you're treated when something goes wrong will reveal how they'll treat you when everything is right. Honestly, I would never recommend this insurance company for automotive or homeowners.

This has been the longest process and is still not completed. There's a saying that when you treat someone well, they'll tell 10 people, but when you treat someone poorly in business, they'll tell 100 people. Well, I hope this message reaches more than 100 people, and I hope people will take my advice and start switching their policies if they have Liberty Mutual. We see these advertisements, but they're not standing by their advertisements.

I would also suggest that if you have auto insurance, you immediately look for another provider, and probably you'll get a better rate. This company is not interested in enjoying good business or standing by you in a time of an accident. They're very much interested in keeping what's important to them and not what's fair to their client.

My other suggestion: if you've had them for over two years, I guarantee you're not being kind to yourself, so don't wait to be involved in an accident. You can use my wisdom to save yourself time and energy and go with someone else. I would even suggest Geico or Nationwide Insurance; they stand behind their reputation.

I know all insurance companies need to make a profit; however, we can expect 100% good service because we pay a premium monthly. When an auto insurance company takes advantage of you, please don't be quiet, and we can help each other not only save money but also promote companies that do good by us. Rarely do I write a review on any company, but this has been so difficult to deal with—a company that truly doesn't care. I had to write and share it with others.

V/R.,

Mr. Terence Efrem Gray Sr., 

A Plate of Love

By Mr. Terence Efrem Gray Sr.

One plate remains, a space now bare,

A seat at the table, once filled with care.

One less gift to buy, a gift beyond compare,

A memory we hold, a love that's still there.

Each child a snowflake, unique and grand,

We pause to remember, to cherish this land.

In winter's silence, we hear your voice,

A whisper of love, a heartfelt choice.

Your uniqueness shone, a light so bright,

A beacon of hope, in morning's delight.

Though your plate may be missing, your presence felt,

Your love, kindness, and generosity, our hearts have selt.

In every snowflake, we see your face,

A reminder of love, a warm, gentle place.

We'll celebrate you, in every falling star,

Forever in our hearts, near and far.

™ by SrTerence

Togetherness True

Togetherness True TM

by SrTerence

Togetherness weaves a gentle thread,

Focused love, where hearts are fed.

In life's quiet moments, they stand as one,

Kindness fills their soul, with love that's won.

Appreciation and love, in every gentle way,

Together they thrive, in a loving day.

A love that's soft, and strong, and free,

A bond that's woven, just for them to see.

Togetherness is a connection true,

A blanket of affection, moving them anew.

In the same direction, they face each test,

Together, their love will forever find its best.

Oceans apart, miles can't define,

Their love, peace, and happiness, forever intertwined.

 From: Mr. Terence Efrem Gray Sr.,

Michael Jordan was on this planet 21 years before LeBron James. 

Do you know, what’s great about an individual when they recognize the walls that were knocked down, the path that were made better and smoothed out. For their existence? It’s called honor and respect.

The respect that is given, like Mike Tyson  given respect to Muhammad Ali, sometimes there are people who can just look back and recognize how great an individual was, and respect how their life was made a little bit easier because of that greatness. 

Respect to Mike Tyson, who has publicly acknowledged the greatness of Muhammad Ali, which makes Mike Tyson great.

Mr. Terence Efrem Gray Sr.,

YOU

 My friends each of you are a marvel a wonder of God’s work.

Your body is a miracle take a moment and touch something, smell something and look at something.

When your hand picks up a cup of water for a drink notice it.

Think how many systems are operating just so you can drive a car.

You can pick up a book and read (awesome).

Somehow a person can take a stick put it into paint and create a beautiful picture.

Somehow someone can look at a tree and see a guitar, chair, table and paper.

Someone can see a branch and a rope and see a meal.

Some can feel a beat and create a song.

Someone once said “stop and smell the roses.”

Take care of yourself. What are you not noticing about you? What are you not grateful about you?

~ TEG

JOY

 

Hello it’s TEG,

Joy was sitting on the beach watching and noticed that no one was seeking joy. So joy got up saying “I’m going to the hospital, I know someone there will recognize me.”

Joy when into the rooms after rooms, but no one acknowledged joy --- many were asleep, sick and upset. Than joy said “I’m going to church (with a smile) many there will be familiar with me.”

Joy enters the church took a seat and notice, people praying, worshipping, peaching and crying. Some were upset over money, titles and the sound of the music.

Joy said I’ll stick around for bible classes because countless will be pleased to see me one on one. Joy again notice them giving their testimonies, studying, typing on their devices. Not one needed Joy?

So Joy noticed a park --- saying: “I’ll roam around there for a while.” A little dog came running up to joy jumping, spinning and wagging its tail, they had so much fun. The owner of the dog witness this and came running, yelling, oh thank you, thank you I’ve been looking all over the park for you. As the owner took the dog away the little dog looked back to see Joy one more time.

Are you looking for Joy, because Joy is looking for you? See — Nehemiah 8:10 

By Mr. Terence Efrem Gray Sr.,

GRIEF

There is an emptiness inside, and now I understand why some call it lost, because it feels that way. Any parent who child transitioned before them understand what I’m writing.

The emptiness has no words. Many kindhearted people want to be of help; some have a difficult time understanding there is nothing they can say or do. Your prayers, silence and tears are plenty.

Think about it this way:

1.      You can’t cry for me.

2.      You can’t scream for me.

3.      You can’t breathe for me.

4.      You can’t pray for me.

Winston Churchill said, on the death of his daughter. “His wife cry sounded like a wounded animal”

Today I’m asking God the Father in prayer to fill every parent around the world emptiness with his love. My hope is that any parent reading this knows someone understands your emptiness.

In-addition/ God place in your life good listeners, friends and family members, who may not understand your wound, but, know you are a beautiful creation of a loving God also.

NOTE: Proverbs: 18:21 “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”

Mr. Terence Efrem Gray Sr.,

Ian Joseph Gray

 

 

 

It’s Terence Sr.,

Peace, blessings and love to all the readers. Jesus did not ask us or tell us; Jesus commanded us, to love everybody!!! This is not a choice. We his people do not get to decide. Yes, I know you will do your own thing. I’m talking to those who confessed Jesus is Lord! I’m writing to the few who’s seeking the Kingdom Of God.

 

Yes speaking to those who said, “not my will be done, yours be done Father God.” Those who believe God so love the WORLD! I’m not talking to those who believe; “God so love them he gave his only son to them?” Who act like, it is God and them, and everybody else can go to plank!

 

However, I’m talking to those who act like, be like and do like Jesus; by loving their neighbors as themselves.

I’m talking to those who believe the prayer Jesus gave us; our Father! OUR FATHER!! He did not say his Father, your Father! He said OUR, OUR, our, Yes!!! 

The Son of God, our King, Lord and savior commanded us to love everybody!! 

 

~Breath~

 

John 15:12-13: “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” ~ Jesus!

 

Matthew 5:44

“But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,” ~ Jesus! 

 

Now for some meat     

John 14:21

“Whoever has my commands and keeps them is the one who loves me. The one who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love them and show myself to them." ~ Jesus! 

 

NOTE: We should never question God concerning his children. Don’t sit yourself up for failure.

 

Lesson plan A

 

Do your own research (DYOR)

 

Love & peace

 

~TEG~

MY CONVERSATION WITH LOVE

Awoke today and love said to me I love you. Hello love good morning. Love you are my every-thing; last night I dreamed of you and now you are here? Love just laughed and said son I am your dream. Oh love and I had a good time this morning. Love will you always stay with me? Love laughed and again and said I AM love you couldn’t be without me. Sometimes love it seems as if I’m not? Son that’s why I woke you up this morning in my love. Oh I said! Love laugh for the third time and said “son love what I love.” what is that love? You! ~ TEG

IF THE USA WAS A BODY

Republicans and Democrats are in a battle 

on who will be its brain. 

The heart is Congress.

The lungs are House of representatives 

and the Senate.

The governors are the liver.

The mayors are kidneys. 

The rest of the body is voting. 

@srTerence

 

MY DEAREST CHILD

Hello my dear friends and family! I pray everyone is doing well. I’ve been working on something that I wanted to share with you all. It’s a letter that I envisioned God writing me if He chose to write one. My hope that this blesses someone today!

FROM:HEAVEN

MY DEAREST CHILD,

I’m writing you to let you know how much I love you! You are the apple of my eye! While I was creating you in my image, I realized how perfect you are in my eyes! Don’t let anyone else tell you that you are opposite of that, especially the enemy! For he is the father of lies and does his best to separate you from me. Here is the good news! No one has the power to pull you away from my loving hands! I know sometimes you may think that your mistakes cause me to turn away from you, however, that is simply not true! I am with you even then, so that I may turn that mistake into a blessing! My desire is that you have great faith in me, knowing that I will never leave you or forsake you. In life you will face challenges in order to receive the lessons I have you and through those lessons, may your eyes be opened to see the blessings I have already given you and will continue to give you. My desire for you is to have a joyful and abundantly rich life while you are there on Earth! If you would only know the full depth of my love for you my child! I believe you are aware how far I have gone to prove that love to you by sending my only Son Jesus to be the living sacrifice for you!

I value you my wonderful child, you are worth more than rubies or diamonds. I assure you that you are very important to me. You see my child, I have a purpose for you, which is for your good and my glory. Don’t let outside noise like fear and uncertainty distract you from full-filling your purpose. Stay close to me my child and I will not lead you astray! I really miss talking with you. I know a lot of times your life can get very busy, but don’t let that stop you from talking to me. I am close to you when you pray to me, when you are reading my Word and pursuing my Son Jesus! Come boldly to my throne and ask me the desires of your heart. Whatever you seek, you will find in me! I want you to know that I’m always here with you and I hear everything you pray about. I miss the conversations we used to have about everything going on in your life, even though I already know. I want to be involved in every part of your life. Remember my child as you strive to increase your faith, add the following ingredients: virtue, knowledge, self-control, perseverance, godliness, brotherly kindness and love. I love you my child and I wait patiently to hear from you again!

WITH ALL OF MY LOVE,

YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER

By Mr. Nick Abraham Carter

Choosing to be a better person

You can always choose to be a better person. Choosing to be a better person has no age restrictions.

It is not limited to, your occupation; it is of your choosing. It is the one thing you can’t blame another; as you can’t blame them from the air you are breathing, gender or the color of your skin.

As I’ve conversed over the year with individuals it appear as if they are waiting for some type of intervention or for something or someone to make them better.

If you are not better towards being a better individual when you are with you, and you don’t like being with you. Why would you ever believe others will enjoy someone you don’t enjoy being with?

So I’ve come to this conclusion.

The betterment of me is for the enjoyment of others.

With love,

Mr. Terence Efrem Gray Sr.

 

2016 is Coming To a Close

 

2016 is coming to a close; many things we've had to overcome in this year. Disappointments, sickness, transitioning of love ones and friends. There's been pain and joy. However, in this moment I would like to address the soul in each of us. That very special part of you; it is what connects us all here on earth. It teaches us to love each other, to show each other kindness.

 

 

The soul doesn't have a color or sex. It helps us to feel when a love one is no longer here with us, and reminds us why they were and how they touched our lives for the better.

 

 

I'm simply asking that each of my friends and my family to be gentle with yourself as we approach this holiday season. Be kind and gentle to your soul; others will take notice. Look around and see the beauty of this planet that was created for you.

 

 

Notice the air in your body, and a trees that has changed. Feel your heart beating, knowing that others hearts are beating as well. You may have to forgive someone who has injured you. Ask God to turn your worries into faith. Your despair into hope. Your sadness into joy.

 

 

It is because of God's love and kindness for each soul; no matter how 2016 is remembered each soul can give thanks.

 

 

Love and kindness to your soul,

Mr. Terence Efrem Gray Sr.

#2016

YOU THE RIVER

Think of  your body as a river.
Water is flowing around each pebble.
Each pebble in your river has a name.

She (Wisdom) ask, what pebbles would you like to remain in you (the river)?

Unforgiving, hate, bitterness and sadness 
Poverty, foolishness, unwise and revenge
Lies, untrustworthy, stealing and anger
Laziness, confusion, deceiving and sickness
Lust, greed, pride and jealousy and worry

Love, joy, happiness and peace
Prosperity, generosity, health and compassion
Kindness, patient, trust and hope
Giving, integrity, forgiveness and humility and peace

How will you answer?

What will your river look like as the water flows over each pebble?


Terence Efrem Gray Sr.,

Emotional Bully

How are you showing the love of God daily? Please don’t be an emotional bully, get the help you need. Life is too short. You are to give love and respect and you are to receive love and respect daily. The emotional bully uses their emotions to get what they want not realizing they are deceived and disobedience to Mark 12:31 “The second is this: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' There is no commandment greater than these."
Blessings, TEG

YOU A HYPOCRITE?

IF SOME CALL YOU A HYPOCRITE; WOULD YOU LOVE THEM OR ASK YOUR SELF WHY? Denying the trouble(s) in your life will never fix it. However, just as the good comes; we can learn from the trouble(s) that comes. By accepting it and we get to ask questions like: What is the lesson(s) in this? How can I change for the better? Did this come to mature me? Whatever you do; do not miss the lesson. Jesus said: “You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.” Matthew 7:5 This is one of greatest expression of love; because we get to see and feel what you do. Don’t just say you love, as you remove your plank. Walk in it by showing your love. Terence Efrem Gray Sr.,

WAVE ON

The wave cannot separate from the ocean. It may take on different forms, but it is still the ocean. It may try to separate, but the ocean pulls it into its stillness. Are you having waves of emotional issues? Maybe you are trying to fix something(s) only God can fix? Know that in the stillness of God's love, grace pulls us in the miracles of God's stillness -- you must let go, and be still. Allow God to carry you; you are created in his image. Terence E Gray Sr.,

WHATEVER?

Negative thinking creates negative problems. Are you using the same type of thinking to get you out of the problems? We get oil changes, we change out shoes and we change cell phones. Maybe it's time to change those negative problems? Expressing: Whatever thinking got you into the problem, do not use it to get you out. One of the fastest way to resolve your negative thinking is to, put on a servant’s heart. T. E. Gray Sr., Let’s Read, its Thinking Time: “Rendering service with a good will as to the Lord and not to man” Ephesians 6:7

YOUR FAITH IS PRICELESS

When your faith is under attack you are moving in the right direction. Did you know that? Why you ask; because it's valuable. If you only understood its value you would be excited and not give up; allowing it to move you up. Faith is always at work in use; however you must give your will over to it daily. If you want joy, peace, love or forgiveness; allow your faith to bring it to you because it's unseen but it’s there wanting to flow through you daily. When you hear the teaching of Jesus your faith is activated. What power you have in you. You would better appreciate your Pastor(s) and see their value. Going to Church to hear the message of faith would make you so happy because you know why you are there. I like that; going in happy coming out joyful. Your faith is priceless; understand it, guard it and ask God the Father for wisdom concerning it. Your faith can bring things to you and your faith can let things go; like unforgiving, worry and depression. You can let go of self-seeking, your cares and those problems you like to think about each day (I call it the dance of the faithless). Who needs self-pity? Not the children of God. Look at your faith, and ask it question(s). 1. Am I using you daily? 2. Are we pleasing God daily? 3. Do I understand how you work in me? 4. Are you growing in me? 5. Am I feeding on the Word of God daily to nourish you? 6. Do I care? 7. Can I trust it? These questions will help you to move on in your faith in see its value. God the Father will be pleased as you seek to move up and out in your faith. When your faith is under attack you are moving in the right direction because you get to use it and keep growing --- the rewards follow. Terence Efrem Gray Sr.,

LAND ON THE ROCK

Love protects us and we all can trust in the love of God the Father. We can always land on the Rock if our wings rupture. The next time you see someone who's ill-mannered, unkind or foolish. Remember they are the handy creation of God the Father and they themselves are in pain and need to know they are loved by a love they could not possibly understand. Tell them -- Jesus (the Rock) has room for them and in him they can build and become wise. If it's raining, storming or beating winds, there is a message that was given in love to anyone who chooses to hear and practice it; Lord Jesus, thank you for sharing your wisdom. We stand in your protection; so undeserving yet so grateful. We get to share your love with others. It’s o.k. to land on the Rock. Terence Efrem Gray Sr.,

A TOUCH OF KINDNESS

Can you imagine if kindness ruled each heart on earth? We would all experience Heaven here on earth and what a beautiful thing to think on. What if each believer heart was kind here on earth and we could see the kindness they do(a light following each)? We would then know Heaven is coming. Kindness is a powerful gift given to us all and only can we give it away to ourselves and others. We must start first by being kind to ourselves daily and then we mature to be kind to others. I look to Heaven with great humility and receive God the Father's kindness. Thanking him for allowing me to be kind to me; that I may now pass his gift along. Father I can feel your healing of my soul; a touch of your kindness. Oh yes Lord I'AM still. Father your wisdom is so pure. Thank you! Terence Efrem Gray Sr.,

WHO OR WHAT HAVE YOUR I

Whatever your I die to (I am not talking about physical death.) becomes your God. E.g.: If your I die to dope it becomes your God and you're labeled as a drug addict. If it dies to alcohol it becomes your God and you're labeled as an alcoholic. If it dies to sex it becomes your God you're labeled as a whore-monger. If it dies to money it becomes your God you're labeled as greedy. If it dies to pride it becomes your God you're labeled as prideful. If it dies to unforgiving it becomes your God you're labeled as hard. If it dies to love it becomes your God and you're labeled as a child of God. I give my I to you God the Father in Jesus name, have your way. Who or what have you given your I to? Terence Efrem Gray Sr., “Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” Matthew 11:29

WE GOT THE KEYS TO CHANGE THIS WORLD

We bind sickness, unforgiving hearts, and confusion and darken eye sights, hopelessness, pride and laziness also we bind folly and disobedience to your living word, and hate for humanity. We bind deceitfulness, gossiping and evil. Lord we bind words that hurt your leaders and children also wickedness in the Church. Lord Jesus we loosen your peace, love, joy and goodness, your prosperity also your wisdom, understanding and compassion for others. We loosen abundance in all good things we say/do and think. We loosen heavenly knowledge with the faith to move each mountain now/today. We loosen the power from your throne to be your ambassadors here on earth, removed for the power of sin by your blood Lord Jesus; we loosen the celebration of heaven here on earth of thanksgiving. We loosen and receive your generosity that we may bless others now/today. Lord Jesus thanks for placing the keys in our hands please give us your wisdom to use them wisely Amen. “And I will give unto thee the keys of the kingdom of heaven: and whatsoever thou shalt bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever thou shalt loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.” (Matthew 16:19 KJV) Written By T. E. Gray Sr.,

HIS PLAN IS ALWAYS PERFECT

God the Father has not called a husband or a wife to judge each other or to think for each other, but to walk humble before him each day in love and support each other loving him first. Marriage was created by God the Father and it is perfect. If they place the other before God; they will always have a discord in the relationship. God the Father gave marriages three big words for the relationship, love, respect, and forgiveness (LRF). His plan is always perfect. Our plans; well look at today's the divorce rate. His plan is effortless to understand, if you are trying it your way and it's not working. Consider his plan and fall back in love with God the Father, because he still loves you. Written by Terence Efrem Gray Sr.,